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[UPDATED] Please help find my uncle’s killer (requesting signal boost)

December 30, 2014 · Comments Off on [UPDATED] Please help find my uncle’s killer (requesting signal boost)

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Please click to have a closer look. If you recognize this hammer, please call Detective Sargeant Mark Canning at 401-468-4236, or the Anonymous TIP Line at 401-732-TIPS (401-732-8477).

Someone in your network might recognize this hammer. Please scroll down and Share this via Facebook, Twitter, or Google+.

My Uncle Jack Fay was murdered in City Park, Warwick, RI.

His killer has still not been found. Jack’s four children are my first cousins, and they are suffering. Bring his killer to justice.

Please take a closer look at the hammer the police found near the crime scene, and please share this post so other Rhode Islanders can take a look.

[UPDATE] Warwick police have the DNA of a killer (see, and, is offering a $25,000 reward.

If you know who committed this crime, please contact the Warwick police at 401-468-4236, or their Anonymous TIP Line at 401-732-8477.

Categories: Certainty · Connection · Crime · Current Affairs

I’ve Already Decided. Have You?

December 17, 2014 · Comments Off on I’ve Already Decided. Have You?

I am upset.

I share things on Facebook because either they make me happy, or, they upset me.

This article ( did both – I was happy this douchebag got fired for sexually harassing a student, and, I was upset that we live in a world where any professor thinks requiring a student to tolerate his sexual harassment while completing a course is “OK” behavior.

I don’t share things on Facebook to start debates. I share information to increase awareness.

I don’t take interactions on the internet personally. I do, however, take trivializing of other people’s pain personally. For you to call me and/or MIT’s response “stupid” trivializes the student’s pain, distracts from the douchebag professor (where the focus belongs), and trivializes my attempt to share information in the hopes of a) calling out the professor’s unacceptable behavior in the hopes of b) deterring future offenders.

Shitlords like Walter Lewin, like Bill Cosby, like Jian Ghomeshi, like Roman Polanski, do NOT get free passes on abusing women “just because” they made/make contributions to their respective fields.

What I will take personally is seeing you jump into my timeline making excuses for yet another shitlord’s yet another instance of shitty behavior against yet another woman. I’m fucking done tolerating shitlords and their shitty behavior.

If you think I’m overreacting to the abuse women are forced to suffer, it’s only because you don’t see the pattern I see.

And if you think I’m overreacting by blocking you, it’s only because you don’t know how many other people I’ve already had to block for trivializing women’s pain.

I’m tired of masturbatory debates. Either you think Lewin is a shitlord, or you don’t. Either you’re doing something to call out men who assault, harass, and objectify women, or you’re not.

Take action against wrongdoers, or don’t. But don’t distract me with your “debates”. I’ve already decided what to do with my energy.

Have you?

Categories: Contribution · Current Affairs · Health and Fitness

Where I Stand on the Dickwolves T-Shirt Comment Mike Made at PAX Prime 2013

September 19, 2013 · Comments Off on Where I Stand on the Dickwolves T-Shirt Comment Mike Made at PAX Prime 2013

Here’s where I stand:

Dickwolves comic I understood the joke Mike made, and I understood why it upset rape survivors.

Rape survivors: They need our understanding and support. Every single one of us can level up our empathy and support skills. If we work hard at it.

The PAX Prime 2013 panel The cheer is the first part that bothers me. Read this rape survivor’s reaction to being in the audience and hearing that cheer:

The fact that no one in the audience immediately stood up and yelled out “What the FUCK, Mike?!” is the second part that bothers me. It’s not enough to silently disagree with rape culture, and let these teaching moments slip by. This work is hard and it takes extreme bravery to speak up in the moment that speaking up can do the most good.

Dickwolves shirts: They should never have been designed, printed, or sold. But they were. And nothing like that should ever happen again.

The entire Dickwolf controversy: I am glad we are talking about survivor support, and I am very glad we are working to destroy rape culture. Because it’s people like us who will make it clear to everyone that rape is not funny, it is not OK, and if you rape a person, society will stop feeding and sheltering you. If you rape, you are On Your Own. That is what proto-rapists need to repeatedly see, hear, and internalize before they decide to hurt someone. And we need to make that statement true: if you rape, you are On Your Own.

Leftover defense mechanisms from childhood: There comes a time in each of our lives when we have to step outside ourselves and ask, “Are the coping strategies I developed as a child still serving me well, now that I am an adult?” I’m currently wading through this self-examination in my own life. If Mike’s not already there, his time approaches.

Mike’s apology “I absolutely regret everything we did after that comic….Everything we did after that initial comic strip was a mistake and I regret all of it….PAX makes me want to be better.” Regardless of what happens next, I decided a long time ago that I would never let one person ruin a good thing for me, even if that person is at the head of PAX. I don’t have to worship Mike to love making a PAX.

RAINN donation: I already automatically donate $10 a month to RAINN. Survivors need our support year-round. You can too:

PAX stay/go: I’m staying. Working from within is my best option for making PAX the way I want it to be – safe. Playful. Fun. A homecoming. Like a family reunion full of family members I’m actually happy to see.

The culture I live in today: We. WE. Need to change this.

Categories: Connection · Current Affairs · Growth